It is difficult enough to help others, but mental disorders can make it impossible. Even if you have some success with helping someone, any number of set-backs can be disappointing, and major events can burn you and render you temporarily unable to function in your own life. Yet as friends, loved ones, and concerned neighbors we try to reach out and do some good for others. It is not always possible to make a positive and sustained difference, yet when it is possible and it happens it brings more happiness to all the lives affected.
So to guard against being used by psychotic people, we put social boundaries up and make selective character judgments regarding other people. Often this makes us second-guess even innocent, well-intentioned people or those that truly want help and will be grateful for it. When we question our own judgment it is helpful to pause, take as long a break as needed, meditate in order to refocus, reassess the situation, and reach out once again. Hours, days, weeks, months, and years off from working on a ‘case’ may help, and if nothing else the time provides a buffer from actively adding fuel to a relationship on fire, and the time buffer usually allows things to settle and calm down from neglect, and hind-sight reflections.
My writings may not be ‘professional’, but they are a humanist approach to psychology; since few people can actually afford or access hired professionals. Of course if anyone has free access to a trained psychologist or psychiatrist, then by all means they should visit them as frequently as possible. I believe everyone should have their own psychologist, even psychologists… however this is not a reality so therefore I practice personal, humanist method of intellectual dialogue with my friends, for mutual benefit if possible. Also many people will never truly submit themselves to a therapist for any significant length of time; these are the people that fall through the cracks of our society and systems, and often become more dangerous to themselves and / or the public; because no one will deal with them. Professional separation perhaps the best ideal method of dealing with psychopaths, but that is often not an option that they will willingly pursue (cost being a huge factor for lower-incomes), and therefore it is left to the police to take them away after they commit crimes. Psychological intervention and recommending professionals may not always work, but it is worth trying.
If (by some miracle) a psychopath goes to a therapist, encouraging them to stick to it, and follow through with behavior changes and medicine becomes even harder. We are conditioned to want immediate results, and life does not always work that way, so we tend to get discouraged easily. It is important to discuss different medications, and their side-effects with doctors clearly, and openly. It is almost a catch-22 paradox that so much is dependent on irresponsible people taking the responsibility to take the correct medicine on a daily basis; yet this is the case! Those whose conditions worsen, will only find themselves forced to take medicine at a mental institution, if they do not end up dead sooner than later.
“Life is work, anyone who says otherwise is not living to their potential.” – Dr. Beamer