Ending Abuse ASAP

The Art of Ending War Before It Begins

Law suits and physical fights are reasons why I avoid people that show they want to argue about ‘creative differences’ more than they want to ‘creatively collaborate’. I admit i still like the thrill of battle, but i just know how to win before it begins now. LOL Basically I will always communicate with a partner or client until they start getting nasty (meaning personal insults and not just logic of limits) it took years of practice with clients to understand how to avoid the blame game – and years of realizing it comes down to personality and behavior (psych eval). Offer what you can, and if you or they are not pleased enough over a period of time, realize the cycle of abuse before it goes further, and cut losses. If the fight cannot be avoided, it is preferable to get a seat in the audience. Abuse is the wrong kind of drama for a healthy relationship. Abuse is often determined by one side making demands that the other side views as hurtful or oppressive. However if it will not end, and you have a chance to end it before worse things happen, take it. Often we allow situations to escalate because of kindness, and kindness can get taken advantage of for better or worse.

Cut off all communications with those that are willing to hurt you, and get help to enforce the laws that protect our rights to do so.

The more severe the behaviors (not talking about freedom of speech but actual business or physical moves), the more the need to sever contact ASAP (as soon as possible).

For tips on how to creatively collaborate, rather than quit due to creative differences, read articles on child-like vs child-ish, cooperative creation, and respecting the imagination and limits of others. Make sure that all parties are aware of all the factors and levels of risk before getting too involved, or cutting losses becomes suicide. Within a cooperative you can have committees with leaders, so make sure you understand how project politics work by reading about what has worked in the past. Working partnerships are not less important than friendships, as the level of trust needed often transcends the normal daily challenges of friendship; and because the stakes are greater (even if symbolic of what might happen if there was more at stake), business can often show you who is a loyal friend and wants to support or cooperate with you and how willing they are to do so.

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