Good Sex Means Loving Sex
“The Goddess loves good sex. Good sex is not separate from love, compassion, passion, healing, caring, and sensuality; it IS all of those things and more when we are able to achieve orgasm. Orgasms are physical and spiritual ecstasy combined. Orgasms are called climaxes because they are the highest our physical bodies can take our minds, by transcending consciousness through love on the material plane. Our minds of course really experience the bliss, as with intense exercise or other more mental spiritual connections. Many people have tried to discredit the sacred acts of sexual love over the years, but it is a mistake to abuse the gift of loving sexual contact, just as it is a mistake to abuse drugs. Sex and medicine should always be used for helping ourselves or others, and not to harm. Healthy and moderate masturbation is a form of good sex. Bad sex involves physical abuse, mental abuse, callus emotions, addiction, or rape; which often makes victims hate even the word ‘sex’. Good sex once a day can keep the demons at bay.
Sex is not for everyone. Besides babies and children that do not know enough about the adult world to have mature relations with others; there are asexual (non-sexual) people that are either opposed or ambivalent about sex, for various reasons. This is why it is important to be able to talk about sex. The statistics of rape and abuse are still shockingly horrible. Oberlin College recommended that students have healthy dialogue about sex, before engaging in it, to avoid misunderstanding or regrets. Some people refuse to talk about sex, and even if they love having sex, their inability to communicate (if they are mute they can use sign language or letters) can be an indication that they may not know how they feel about sex, which as with mixed signs, means ‘be careful’.
Even victims of bad sex handle their recovery and healing and coping differently. Women can have very different attitudes about sex, perhaps more than men. Some women have orgasms while giving oral sex! Some women do not like to masturbate, but love sex with strangers. There are infinite combinations of preferences regarding sex. Pursue what pleases you, but not at the cost of others. If a person is not interested in having sex with you, and it has been made clear to you that they are aggressively afraid of you and hateful of your advances; then avoid them as much as possible.
Having good sex means being able to enjoy it, so find what works for you; with or without partners. If you have sex with a partner, try to do what you can to please them and check to make sure they are pleased as best you can. This is how reciprocal love works. If you can be loving and enjoy sex, then sex is good. Good sex is not just performance of an act, it is feeling good inside, while helping and being helped by thoughts and (if we are lucky enough) touch from another.”
– The Witch Goddess, Loving Sex by Miss Arta