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Owning Others as Partners or Parents

Posted in relationships, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 6, 2018 by Drogo

Saying that a loved one is “yours” may not be the exact same as most forms of slavery, but that mentality does have serious and dangerous problems. i stand by my conviction that possession of people leads to violence and abuse. People can seem totally in love owning eachother, until one doesnt want to be owned anymore by the other; then the concept of “you are mine” becomes psychotic. i know because ive felt those emotions, and ive witnessed others acting insane due to those feelings; most of us have as it is part of popular culture. Ownership of children is another problematic aspect of culture that has allowed for countless cases of abuse or neglect of all kinds. Letting go of this attitude is much easier said than done. Obviously there are positive aspects to this kind of attachment and co-dependency; such as defending or supporting one’s partner. Feelings of responsibility for helping other people should never go away entirely, as it is an important part of human relations and society, but our current cultural problems are related to individual civil rights.

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Sensible Sensuality, Rather Than Asceticism

Posted in Health & Fitness, Pagan, Philosophy, Religions, Spiritual, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on October 4, 2017 by Drogo

Sensuality vs Asceticism, a Subjective Dichotomy

Sensualists, or heathen hedonists as some prefer, believe that it is natural and good to satisfy ourselves. Sensuality in moderation means being in harmony with compassion and passion; but in the extreme a voracious hedonist will pay for their excess if their addictive craving hurts others and toxins result in abundance. Sensuality simply means receiving pleasure from our senses, as a natural and healthy practice for happiness.

Ascetics are religiously dogmatic abstinence purists, that view all indulgences as wrong. How one defines indulgences as abuse rather than satisfying means to temporal ends, determines how extreme their discipline. For example, if a person is hungry should they eat until they are full, or always eat the smallest possible amount? In Christianity the concept of Sin is used, to incite guilt and punishment for breaking the ascetic rules. In Buddhism, monastic obedience to the rules often uses similar corporal punishment, without having their own word for what essentially amounts to the same thing as “sin”. In monasteries asceticism goes beyond self-discipline, as hierarchy must maintain ordered control, for the rules to mean anything.

There are spiritual arguments for both Life paths, however some of us are biologically inclined and nurtured towards one way more than another. Some of us see nothing wrong with basing our lives around caring for sexual beings and accepting that sexuality is not only a biological instinct but also when respectful and compassionate is one of the highest pleasures. Others reject mammalian nature due to abuse, manipulation, and suffering caused by desire and attachment. To mentally abstain from sexuality can be easy for those with strong reptile instincts, but as might be the case for most who repress feelings, our neocortex uses a function Freud called the super-ego to deny our more id and ego impulses. In a similar way, some people believe we should express ourselves to be healthy, while others have believed we should suppress ourselves to be healthy. Most reasonable people use moderation rather than extremes, which ever label they use to describe themselves. Sensualists can have a pleasurable happy sufficient life, without being ruined by hedonistic uncontrollable urges; just as Ascetics can participate in common life, without starving or forcing others to starve by abstaining from compassion. Sensible satisfaction is a key to common happiness.

“Fill your belly.

Day and night make merry.

Let days be full of joy.”

– Siduri to Gilgamesh

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[note: will add hunter-prey, abuser-victim dichotomy complexity later, this essay assumes healthy sexuality, not abuse which can make asceticism much more appealing as defense for victims that view anyone who enjoys sex, like Dr. Ruth, as a predator or sick pervert, only one step removed from a molester. Connect to Epicurus.]

Anger & Depression

Posted in Health & Fitness with tags , , , , , , on May 28, 2015 by Drogo

Many depressed people harbor a lot of anger, but don’t always recognize it. Anger can contribute to depression; and vice-versa. Friends who can communicate on a deep emotional level will help victims to regain the ability to perceive life with hope.

“In your anger do not do harm to yourself or others unnecessarily; if it can avoided. At the end of the day, don’t go to sleep angry, if you can deal with it; for it might breed more anger in the morning. Be kind and compassionate to one another and it will be returned unto you.” – Inspired by Celtic Book of Dawn

Having a sense of purpose can help people to live their lives fruitfully despite whatever hardships are thrown their way. Keep on keepin’ on! Don’t let things get you down that don’t need to get you down. If normally you leap to safety, away from what is hurting you, may not always be possible if you have been tied down by another force. Once you are unbound, you must retrain yourself to avoid dangers.

Sadness, Depression, Loneliness, Guilt

Anger, Fear, and Hate

Physical Abuse / Psychological Abuse

Loyalty, Pride, Mercy, and Pity: Integrity

Dealing with Depression often requires sensitivity, compassion, and patience. Depression does not discriminate. It affects people from all ages, races, and classes. It results both from specific events and chemical imbalances in the nervous system. The causes are numerous, and the variety of effects can make healing difficult. We must understand these variables of depression in order to properly suggest appropriate treatments. Self-acceptance through awareness of the Universality of Nature can be a positive first step out of depression’s smog.

For some, Christianity holds many answers, for others Buddhism, but the commonality of these major religions is that they are simply different versions of the reality of human existence within Nature. Followers of Christ have one way of explaining things, and followers of other Messiahs have other ways.

“I am now the most miserable man living. If what I feel were equally distributed to the whole human family, there would not be one cheerful face on earth. Whether I shall ever be better, I cannot tell. To remain as I am is impossible. I must die or be better, it appears to me.” – Abraham Lincoln

Depression is a human condition, recognized in early civilization by the Greek physician Hippocrates who called it “melancholy”. Romantic notions viewed it as ‘pining-away’ for someone or something lost to them. Today depression is considered an illness, affecting the entire body, mind, and spirit. One in five people suffer from depression during their lifetime. Sadness and anger are natural, and accepting this fact is important.

Addictions and Depression have a reciprocal relationship. Depression is the leading cause of addictions like drug abuse, and depression often results from losing something that they were ‘addicted to’. After heart disease, depression is the #2 cause of lost work days in the USA. Depression is a leading cause of suicide.

Whether it is loss of a loved one, loving affections, or a material associational loss, depression can manifest in an individual exhibiting their inability or refusal to adapt to enjoy life again, despite loss. Mental health experts define depression as an ’emotional state of dejection and sadness’. It ranges from mild discouragement and moodiness, to feelings of desperate hopelessness and despair. These naturally occurring human emotions, become constant antagonists of the depressed person.

Symptoms of Depression

Continuous irritability

Insomnia or Fatigue

Loss of enthusiasm

Extreme thoughts of suicide or death

Professional help is recommended in order to determine if other physical problems exist beyond psychological depression. Modern science is constantly finding more connections regarding the Universe and our place within it. So with the help of modern science and medicine, you can reflect on your own life experiences and existence within Nature to be liberated from the manacles of melancholy.

Often, only 1/8 of an iceberg appears above the ocean surface. Depression can hide like this. Some people may refuse to accept their emotions, viewing sadness and sorrow as signs of weakness. Resentment may be held against someone who has done something to them, or abandoned them in some way. Resentment may also be held against one’s self in the form of guilt. Bottled resentment won’t go away until the feelings are realized, admitted, accepted as a common reaction, and a decision is made to actively express a true release of negativity, or true responsibility of love.

In mythology characters deal with sorrow, suffering, and loss. They can often show ways to overcome depression.

Psychological Causes of Depression

Resentment towards someone else

Resentment towards yourself – Guilt

Low self-esteem

Unrealistic goals setting yourself up for failure

Negative perspectives “The glass is half empty”

Physical Causes of Depression

Endogenous chemical imbalances (manic depression)

Slow recovery from an illness or injury

Undiagnosed physical ailment

Side effects of drugs

Dietary deficiencies

Manic depression is bipolar and treated with lithium for mood stabilization. Treatment cannot end there, because unfortunately people can still get themselves into psychological ruts and end up making bad decisions despite a placid mood appearance on the surface. For clinical depression doctors can prescribe tricyclical antidepressant medicine which can also help stabilize nerve cell chemistry. Some people may be able to heal themselves of minor depressions, but for more serious cases steps should be taken to notify friends, family, doctors, and psychologists.

Master and Student are crossing a River. A young Girl needs help crossing the River. They carry the Girl across the River. The Girl thanks them and goes on her way. Later the Student mentions to the Master his feelings of concern for the Girl. The Masters says he put the Girl down by the River, but the Student is still carrying her. The lesson is to leave your worries behind you, and put down worries that you do not need to carry with you.

– Zen Buddhism

To alleviate depression, a friend can be one of the best cures. Psychologist Javier del Amo proposes that depression is caused in part by a process of isolation. When a person lacks meaningful communication with others, their emotions become frozen or paralyzed. To remedy this situation, del Amo advises that the depressed person needs a friend who will communicate on a deep emotional level. This communication can help thaw their emotions, allowing them to perceive positive again.

Devote time to listening to friends for mutual benefit. If they allow you to help, you help them and they will hopefully return the favor in some way later; this is healthy friendship. Help them with tasks that they temporarily lack the desire to do. Be positively encouraging or cheerful. Utilize soothing music and atmosphere; don’t wallow in melancholic problems. Help them to think, feel, and care beyond themselves; but don’t be overly antagonizing. Involve them in useful tasks or activities, to draw them out of the past into present living. Engagement in tasks help connect one with the here-and-now. Check on their medicines, work, hobbies, and other people in their lives. If your looking for more friends to meet, join a group; like a Pagan coven. There you will meet other people with comparable stories. You are not alone. Most of the gods welcome you to worship them in all their natural splendor. When you get to know a spirit in a personal way, they will communicate with you as a friend. Just as with any creature, if they are not nice to you, then it is not a healthy relationship.

Anger Management is not just avoidance or repression, it actually means accepting what is a part of natural human emotions that occur more-or-less in everyone, and dealing with the feeling by venting, controlling, or allowing it to motivate to action as a catalyst for change or work. As with other emotions, it is about moderation which sometimes means managing what is always there under the surface.

You won’t like me when I’m angry. My secret is I am always angry.” – Bruce Banner (aka The Incredible Hulk)

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Natural Medicines for Anger & Depression should be used in moderation: exercise, fresh-air, sun-light, fresh-food, cannabis.

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Ultimate Responsibility

Posted in Philosophy with tags , , , , , , , on February 25, 2014 by Drogo

Many people believe that we are entirely responsible for our own lives, happiness, and everything that happens to us. “No Excuses!”

I can think of a few excuses; like torture and illness. But yeah if we dont kill ourselves asap, then everything that happens to us is on us i guess…  since our brains make effects. Interconnectedness certainly plays a part too though….

I am not entirely convinced that we are ultimately responsible for everything we experience, but we certainly have some control in some areas; yet NO CONTROL in other areas.

Nostalgia Is What It Used To Be

Posted in Philosophy, Poems, Rhymes, Riddles with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on February 25, 2014 by Drogo

Nostalgia hits me hard often, but it is not just melancholy; my nostalgia an odd mix of ecstatic joy, understanding bliss, profound sadness, and contentment. These intense feelings sometimes become tears. Some may view my weeping as weakness, but honestly I am experiencing powerful life conclusions akin to one’s life flashing before their eyes during a near death experience, lessons from the lives of others, and countless other thoughts that surprise me like lights or sounds at the ‘end of tunnels.

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Clues to Happiness

Posted in Medical, Philosophy, Spiritual with tags , , , , , , , , , , on October 19, 2013 by Drogo

Here are some Psychological and Chemical Clues to Happiness

Think of something that makes you happy, so much that it feels real as a meditation.

Missing a friend is an uncomfortable feeling, like a missing connection in a machine; it messes with our functioning. So feel those good feelings that they make you feel, even if it makes you cry. Do not be afraid of your own feelings.

Now let’s think about the Emotional ‘Heart’ aspects of our brain / body:

Adrenalin (Epinephrine) – neuro-transmitter hormone that stimulates body functions like heart-rate, blood-pressure, and metabolism. Adrenalin is released by stress and causes the emotion fear. It can also aid in memory retention. ‘Adrenalin junkies’ may be addicted to the endorphins simultaneously released.

Endorphins – neuro-transmitter chemical produced by the brain during exercise, pain, eating spices, sex, and the ‘feeling’ of ‘love’. The exhilaration produced can be beneficial for happiness, pain-relief, and further enhance love as euphoria.

Dopamine – neuro-transmitter chemical that sends ‘reward’ signals between nerve cells during pleasurable and painful activities or thoughts. Dopamine has prime roles in reward-motivated behavior, excitement, hormone production, and nervous-system dexterity / agility (‘motor-skills’). Dopamine also affects blood vessels, kidneys, pancreas, digestive-system, and the immune-system.

Dopamine-activating stimulants such as cocaine, amphetamine, and meth-amphetamine amplify the effects of dopamine. Conversely, many anti-psychotic drugs act by suppressing the effects of dopamine. Drugs that act against dopamine are anti-nausea agents.

Oxytocin – neuromodulator hormone in brain and blood. Causes complex emotions of trust, attachment, euphoria, and morality. Produced by sexual/reproductive activities and compassionate exchanges like hugging.

Serotonin –  neuro-transmitter chemical in the digestive-system (bowels), nervous-system (CNS), and circulatory-system (blood platelets) derived from tryptophan and melatonin. Serotonin affects healing, happiness, and contentment. Serotonin also affects alpha / beta behaviors, and ‘flight-or-fight’ responses in complex ways.

Psychedelic drugs mimic Serotonin as ‘agonists’. Anti-Depressant drugs alter Serotonin levels.  Thus there are spiritual, medical, and psychological therapeutic aspects to Serotonin.

Melatonin – chemical endocrine hormone preservative that protects DNA, and is an anti-oxidant sleep-aid. Melatonin production is derived from tryptophan, produced by the pineal gland in the center of the brain, and released by visual darkness. Melatonin is also found in herbs like fever-few and saint-Johns-wort; vegetables like rice and corn; and fruits like cherries and grapes .

Melatonin controls our internal ‘circadian’ clock rhythms, including being awake and asleep. There-fore Melatonin is beneficial for over-all good health and long-life. It is used to treat diseases, depression, and insomnia. Regular restful periods of sleep are important to cleanse the brain of toxins that accumulate during conscious activity, and thus prevents related illness like Alzheimers.

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JEALOUSY / ENVY

Posted in Psychology with tags , , , , , , , , , on January 27, 2012 by Drogo

Jealousy is a natural emotion based on fear and anger, when others have something we want, or are doing something we want to be doing, or wish we did. It is useful to acknowledge this emotion so that we can better understand our desires. By understanding our desires we can better regulate our happiness / sorrow.

When we feel jealous (or start to feel envious) we should analyze why we feel jealous. State for ourselves what it is we are jealous about (honestly). Then explore options for what to do about it. List what we have already in our life, to compare experiences and possessions with desires.

Beliefs we have can cause jealousy. For example “Everyone is out to take advantage or me.” “They are trying to control me.” “I need them to not feel alone.” Some our assumptions may be very false, but can be changed. Pick beliefs that are nurturing and supportive, but have boundaries. Don’t listen to beliefs whose only purpose is to make you feel jealous.

Improve your self-esteem, will-power, and goals in life by working on them regularly with lists, charts, brain-storming, meditation, games, and practices. Acknowledge your accomplishments. Make lists, keep a journal, and maintain a calendar. Some people recommend “faking it until you make it”, but i say just be honest about your feelings… at least with yourself… and with others if you can. Honesty will help deal with the issues behind jealousy, and a rational mind can resolve many issues.