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Talk It Out: Conversation As Art

Posted in Interviews, POB Audio, Psychology, Society Clubs or Social Groups, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on July 23, 2019 by Drogo

Join us as we search for meaningful conversation, that may or may not be pleasant or comfortable. Will we know what we are talking about the whole time? Find out! [SHOW LINK]

in a busy world of working for less and less pay, at jobs that would rather replace you than let you take time off, communication has largely been reduced to texting loved ones and ignoring customers who are forced to deal with machines. is there a natural need to have meaningful conversation, or should those of us who prefer to spend a certain amount of time talking all be therapists or long-distance sex workers??

use caution when listening – we are not trained conversational professionals. any opinions we have are to be considered hear-say or entertainment for legal purposes. We are also not paid to compete against commercial level production, so just sit back and relax, or move on to something else, because it is not worth getting upset about. i agree with experts on somethings about talking, but not everything they say is true for everyone, they give general guides for awareness. Speak the way that is best for you, and silence is ok too sometimes, when communication fails.

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Conversation as Science – According to experts

Communication Construction and Deconstruction

Signs & Symbols, Language Families & Standard Rules

When we talk about language rule standards: grammar, spelling, syntax, punctuation, Dictionary definitions, Semiology (signs and symbols), and Semantics (semiotic meanings), etc. that could be a transition into word order and how we read the way we prefer to talk, leading into artistic self expression and times we want to mimic others, which leads into artistic styles and interpretation of communication, and self expression, specifically conversation as art.

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Julien Treasure – HAIL: Honest, true; Authentic, real; Integrity, responsible; Love, wishing well.

Sugar or honey with honesty is nice. Don’t: gossip, judge, complain, blame, lie, exaggerate, or have flaws (unless joking or there are real problems).

 

Celeste Headlee – weather and health are not enough. How to talk and have meaningful conversation even with people we disagree with deeply.

  1. Focus on talk, until out of it, be present.
  2. Be open to learning, or at least respectful in responses.
  3. Open ended questions?
  4. Let most things go.
  5. It is ok to say you dont know everything.
  6. Some personalities like to have comparative sympathy, while others think it is too competitive to compare experience values. (i edited)
  7. Dont brag (too much) and Dont repeat (too much)
  8. Details dont (always) matter.
  9. Try to balance (if possible) time talking vs listening (for equality).
  10. Be brief, but interested. (people are busy, but sometimes want more time with someone that can help them, in a time of need)

 

Ted talks – General guide options, not true for all.

 

Brene’ Brown – power of vulnerability, empathy

 

Marc Pachter – interview as art, meaning in life. Energy is more important than intellect. Story worth sharing. Modesty wastes time, you have to think it is worth some value to tell your story. Competing for attention can lead to arguing, not discussing, unless it is fun for everyone. Wrestle for the key to unlock story.

 

Sherry Turkle – connected but alone? Conversation has depth (emotion, language, sound) of communication that no amount of texting connection can adapt to.

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Communication Deconstruction

Signs & Symbols, Language Families & Standard Rules

When we talk about language rule standards: grammar, spelling, syntax, punctuation, Dictionary definitions, Semiology (signs and symbols), and Semantics (semiotic meanings), etc. this is the science of communication. The word order and how we ‘read the way we prefer to talk’, based on cultural factors are how we interpret what laws should be. 

From common slang greetings that are not properly correct, to a feeling of fake formal presentation vs real country folk authentic accents; opinions are relative. Rules give general guides, and rebels will break the rules their way.  But not everyone wants to conform to all the rules, in the liberal vs literalist dichotomy. Between mixed families and dialects there is language evolution. Artistic self expression, group styles, and regional markers are as valid as any rules.

There are times we want to mimic others, not to ‘make fun of’ to insult, but to match and sympathize with their way. Individual styles and interpretation of communication, are integral for conversation as art. Art can be harmonious, but also chaotic. I agree with experts on some talking points, to have common language ground, and reference points for discussion about what is important to talk about. It is nice to know how and why to be polite, but also be able to show honest emotions and desires. Speak the way that is best for you, and silence is ok too sometimes, when communication fails. Some people are mute and prefer silence, that is ok too.

 

This is the art of conversation.

We call to each other from afar,

Approaching we talk of weather and feather

And we come close to whisper in our ears

To say or not to say, or how shall we say it?

Is this the art of conversation?

 

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Talk It Out, SCOD Life Counseling & Coaching

Posted in Philosophy, Psychology, Spiritual, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , on February 19, 2017 by Drogo

Existential philosophy & psychology with Drogo Empedocles, Architect of The Sustainable Cooperative for Organic Development

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Drogo Quotes 3

Posted in Interviews, Matras Quotes Tips with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 7, 2014 by Drogo

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Those that really care about you will want to be as emotionally close as possible as often as is mutually beneficial. Apathy, Hatred, or Love are feelings individuals can choose to show to other people to form relationships of all kinds. From my teen years i think i felt hatred and jealousy more often than love and compassion in my life into early adult-hood; after flipping the scales to favor love and compassion i feel much happier and peaceful. Yes i still get mad, but im better at focusing my anger to achieve tasks, and not harm others.

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Reality is broad spectrum. When we get caught up with rejecting things because of an ideal of perfection, we can so easily deny ourselves the happiness of enjoying diversity in reality. Sure the diversity can be frustrating too, but life is a balance between judging, participating, and simply observing.

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Yes size matters to many animals for various mating behaviors; unless they are birds who prefer color display, or humans with intellect who value the individual as a person rather than only based on one or two physical aspects. Bigger does seem to be better when it comes to being mainstream sexist with certain primates, i know that much.

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People create markets by desire, as a perceived want or need; intentional or not.

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One beautiful thing about being Neo-Pagan is that you can believe in the gods and goddesses as mythological metaphor (like Joseph Campbell).
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Ego is simply the ‘self’ conscious mind in psychology.

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As an architect that actively practiced for over a decade, industrial convention blocked my environmental efforts on every level. It was my experience that has led me to pursue alternative education on a social level without the pressure of ‘judge, jury, and executioner’ i faced with every client project. I still practice environmental architecture, but now i do so on my own terms, by practicing SCOD adaptive techniques of self-employment and organic networking. Even digital does not have to be commercial, and some day commercial does not have to so destructive and ignorant.

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Regarding how other people treat us, remember we are Arbiters of Personal Opinion – many people will be critical without caring how their opinion will affect you; many will say honestly harsh things with no compassion using the blanket excuse that ‘they are helping you’ even if the opposite is true, many will tell you how to do things just to be bossy because they were bullied by others, and they need to make themselves seem better; we can take or leave harsh medicine pushed on us because opinions are indeed as common as smells, some are appropriate for the nose smelling them and some are not, because smells are connected to memories, and memories connected to emotions. Also opinions of opinions change. My opinion is that most people do not care about most other people, and although it is based on professional experience, that opinion may change over time.

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Willingness to share and include others is a key to ethical progress. Even when conflict of boundaries arises, and differing opinions are asserted, it is this ‘key’ that is most important. As a friend of mine recently said, “the old concept of copyright is outdated”.

Evolving Critical Evaluation

Posted in Arts (Design & Performance), Critical Commentary of Civilization, Environmentalism, Music Reviews, Psychology with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on October 23, 2013 by Drogo

Redefining Good vs Bad judgments based on the Evolution Humanitarianism and Environmentalism

Changes in politics and economics show that there is indeed a paradigm shift slowly happening since the 1960’s from a human perspective about civilization. This self-aware hippy attitude of good-will has yet to trickle through to main-stream media critics, who have created a whole new generation of ‘everything is shit except what i like’ haters. So in response to less hateful aggressive competition, we hear critics talking about how stupid it is to give every kid a badge who was involved in the game (since the 1980s).

First of all that argument about there being no incentive to win because ‘every one gets a trophy’ holds no sway with me. In soccer the more games you won, the larger the trophy you got; and as I got older, the team I was on lost more and more games. The reason we lost games was not because we were content with getting what-ever it was we got at the end of the season (a paper document if we were lucky); it was because other teams were better. I cannot describe fully how bad it still felt to lose over and over again, with nothing show for it. So to all those critics of encouraging people to keep playing next year by giving them some prize, I say “Fuck you!”. Ok, is that humanitarian enough for you?

Next, there is a growing awareness in America that we are fucking up the planet we live on for ourselves and future generations. This is called Environmentalism (for those not in tune with the movement already). For those that don’t care about life in general or other lives, I ask them to imagine burning to death, drowning, or starving … as an Environmentalist I am opposed to that happening to the masses of animals, including humans, on this planet; but it is happening now because of our collective ignorance on an industrial scale.

So now we come down to individual artists, musicians, and farmers being able to do what they love doing for a living. It is impossible for most of us to earn a living growing our own food, playing our own music, and making our own art currently; however this is where critical evaluation needs to keep evolving! We are redefining our collective definitions of ‘good and bad’ creations, at social events like drum circles, free art shows, and small farm gatherings. Rather than the emphasis being placed on selfish competition and arrogant petty comparisons, critical emphasis is evolving to embrace individual expression and the importance of compassion. To promote the work of another that you can identify with, becomes a way of promoting yourself as a good person.

A good creation has social and environmental worth beyond talent or skill.

A bad creation has destructive dimensions beyond the surface glamor.

Both have value for self-reflection.

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SCOD Audio POB Network

Posted in Cooperatives / Communities / Networks / Travels, Critical Commentary of Civilization, Environmentalism, Interviews, Music Reviews, POB Audio, Recommendations & Tributes with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 6, 2013 by Drogo

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SCOD Audio Show Pilot Episode 1

Pilot on Soundcloud

Series in SCOD Galleries

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I know that everyone is busy, but if we take time to invest in alternative grassroots business and entertainment it can make a real difference. Simply by taking 5 minutes to watch a friend’s video or download their music (instead of a more popular one that has already made a ton of money); and clicking like or saying something nice for your friend; it can make a real difference in that person’s life, and thus in your life. These actions snowball, and make change in the world. Sure i spend time doing other things most of the time, but our individual time added up is what makes or breaks monopolies.

(3) Aesthetics & Linguistics

Posted in SCOD Thesis with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 31, 2011 by Drogo

Introduction to SCOD Aesthetics & Linguistics

 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but many humans are attracted to the same common symbols of Beauty. In architecture several famous architects have explored styles dedicated to expressing Aesthetic Beauty, which in turn is said to foster love, peace, and other positive values in the people that experience the designs.

 

Palladio, HH Richardson, Frank Lloyd Wright, Bruno Taut, the Saarinens, and the Stowells have all designed Aesthetically pleasing space. While Aesthetic tastes vary, they have been able to provide built sculptures that are pleasing to the humans that inhabit them, and the humans that view them as well. This creates a common kinship, and communicates to the humans involved that they are loved.

 

Some architects reject commonly held notions of Aesthetics in favor of making bold statements that are shocking but carry a message of functionality or shift in thought. Some may consider alternative architecture to be offensive, but that is because it may challenge their Aesthetic perceptions. For art to be truly offensive, it must have actual weapons that physically harm or kill. Mental assault is often very subjective.

 

Language, Communication, and Peace Essays

Posted in Cooperatives / Communities / Networks / Travels, Critical Commentary of Civilization, SCOD Thesis with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 29, 2011 by Drogo

Language, Communication, and Peace within and between Communities around the World

ESSAY CONTEST

This is a SCOD Contest for Essays from around the World based on the title themes written above.

The winner of the Contest will be chosen by SCOD to be published in SCOD literature. If there is only one entry, that will be published. If there are many great entries, they may all be winners and published as well. So do not be timid!

What is your perspective on how Language, and other forms of Communication, function regarding Peace and Conflict Resolution within and between Communities. Art, Math, Dance, Music, Writing, and Language Communications all help us to better understand and perhaps sympathize within and between Communities. If you have already written an essay that is similar, or want to write one, please submit it to drogo76@hotmail.com or if it is a short one paragraph comment, just post it below. Thank you for your interest, Blessed Be!

Rules and Rewards:

1. There is no closing date on essay submissions

2. The contest prize is to be published by SCOD unlimited, although we will credit you with writing it.

3. Essays should be between 1-5 paragraphs (1-2 pages)

4. Your essay contributions may help save lives in the future, by helping to change opinions on War and Conflict in general through better communication!

 

 

Here are some examples:

Peace Building Architecture

Architects for Peace

Architecture of Peace

Architecture For Peace

Peace Through Architecture

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